Ah yes, my motto. “Winging It” may sound a little careless to some of you (not to say in my younger years it wasn’t just that) but these days it has a lot more structure, meaning, and it’s done with confidence. Yes, there are times where this just can’t be done, when you need to be prepared and have everything together. But for the most part, I’ve learned that things tend to be much better when it isn’t overthought to the point of zero excitement.
I get it, it’s easy to get wrapped up in every detail and step in your life, but honestly it really takes the fun out of it all. Now I love great details as much as the next person, especially involving my home and outfits, but you’ve got to learn to let some stuff go, let your life get messy once in awhile, and just have fun. Learn to laugh at the things that usually stress you out, relax, and start doing the things that you sincerely love. I promise you will be a much happier person inside and out and that’s what it’s all about right? I know what you’re thinking, planning your future and making sure everything is all mapped out is. Nope. Your future is absolutely not guaranteed. People come and go, the world changes, every moment could be your last and one moment could change everything. C’est la vie. But being genuinely happy is what is going to make you successful, it’s the one thing you’ll either regret or remember about your life when it’s come to the end.
So here are a few things that I wing the hell out of and in turn allow me to be genuinely happy and have fun with whatever comes my way. Maybe it’ll inspire you to do the same. Or maybe you’ll think I’m bat shit crazy. Either way, why not give it a try once in a while, or just once? I dare you.
The best kind of winging it. You should never plan out a full trip or you’ll miss out on all the fun. Plan where you’re going, how long, and maybe a couple of activities. Leave the rest to what comes your way. Believe me! You’ll never know what the weather is like, how you’re feeling that day, who you meet, or what spots become your favorite. Random traveling is the absolute best because it allows you to see all the many unique people, places, and cultures around the globe as chaotic and beautiful as it’s supposed to be. Embrace it by going with the flow and living like a local while you’re there (but make sure you’re not trying to be too cool to snap pictures along the way). Make every trip different than the last and remember memories are priceless. Learn to embrace individuality and differences and also understand that we’re all very similar too. We’re all just human in the grand scheme of things. Even if you can’t travel the world, make a point to see different parts of your country, or your city, go places that you wouldn’t normally go. Say yes to spontaneous plans. Sure things around the house need to be done and you’ve probably got a list of to-dos (I know I usually do), but just say yes to lunch with your friends, take a moment and wander through the park alone, meet your family for dinner, lay on the ground with your kid and just point at everything you two see. The little unplanned things are often the best moments.
Giving Birth- HA. Plans? What plans? Every woman is different, as is every birth and every baby. Might as well scrap your birth plans right now and just enjoy being pregnant as much as possible. When the time comes all you’ll be worrying about is delivering a healthy baby. Pick an OBGYN/Midwife you’ll visit regularly through your pregnancy, get a bag ready (read my hospital bag checklist for a dreamy birth experience here if you’d like some ideas), and know where you need to be when it’s time to deliver that beautiful babe and everything will be just peachy. Try to relax, breathe, and be excited to finally be able to hold the little human that has been growing inside of you. That moment is unforgettable.
Raising a human being– Another big HA. My daughter is just about to turn one so I don’t have the experience yet as many other mothers, but I do already know that you will literally drive yourself crazy if you don’t wing the crap out of this one. Yes having consistency is great for you and your child, but keep it general, read your baby’s cues, and follow your instincts. You’ll soon learn what works for the both of you and that every day/week/month something will change and throw everything off. But that’s the beauty of it. Not only is your baby growing into his/her own person, you are growing and learning from them too. Shit happens, figuratively and literally, don’t take it too seriously. As long as your babe is healthy, safe, and loved, you’re doing great mama. Sometimes you’ll feel stressed out, angry, want to cry, or at wit’s end, just try to find the humor in whatever you’re dealing with. I can’t tell you how many times I just wanted to scream or cry but instead I just thought is this really what’s happening and laughed. In turn my baby smiled or laughed back at me because they will sense what you’re feeling and follow. A happy mom makes a happy baby and a happy baby is the best thing in the world. And yeah, definitely get yourself some mom friends. There’s nothing like the support and bond between mothers. Trust me. It will keep you sane to be around other moms going through the same things you are, and share a glass of wine or beer with and laugh about it all. And yes you’ll find yourself wanting a drink well before 5pm some days. Go for it.
Many people, especially in America, spend most of their time working to live or living to work. That’s no way to spend all your beautiful days on this earth. There has to be balance. Whether you know exactly what you want to do or no clue at all, just do what makes you happy and allows you to live your best life. Of course money is necessary, but don’t let that money take over everything else. You may go to years of school for a degree that you don’t even use because the field isn’t what you thought. Or never finish school and go right into working a trade. Or want to be an entrepreneur after years of working for someone else. You may have an incredibly high-paying job but find yourself super miserable. You may quit your job and go back to school. The type of job you have right now doesn’t have to be the job you have your whole life, unless you really love doing it. But just be careful that the obsession with money doesn’t blindly let you believe you’re happy when deep down you’re not. Be open to possibilities, let yourself grow, keep an open mind, let that creativity flow, and don’t ever fear change. My career path has switched so many times that I couldn’t even begin to tell you which one I’ll end up with. I stay inspired, I’m constantly learning new trades, and I absolutely adore every bit of it.
So as much as you want to believe you’ve got everything figured out, just remember life is unpredictable. No one really has it figured out and that’s honestly the beauty of it. Never would I have thought that I would be a stay-at-home mom, sharing my life on a blog (occasionally), and living in the same town where I’ve lived most of my life. But I’m here, celebrating the small victories along the way, and loving it. Sure, some days are tough and emotional and bullshit gets thrown my way, but in the end I can truly say that I’m genuinely happy. Who knows what I’ll be doing in the next 5-10 years, where we’ll be living, and the places we’ll see. But that’s the best part. Life is too damn short to not be experiencing every bit of it in new and exciting ways. So yep, I’ll be over here continuing to wing it one day at a time, because who has time for anything else?